Monday, September 28, 2015


Let's face it... Rejection is HARD. No matter what form of rejection... a friendship, a job, and for me lately... show applications. Rejection is like someone is physically punching you in the stomach and knocking the breath right out of you. It hurts. It is hard enough to even muster up the strength and courage to apply for a new show, or a new job... only to be rejected.

They seem like they are friendly enough... talking up their show (or their shop)... and all of the applications they received... and how many people are involved in the show... and how hard it was to select artists for the show... then, BAM... they hit you with the word... "UNFORTUNATELY" and you read on... sometimes fighting back the tears. See examples below...

"There was a high volume of applications (the most we've ever had!), and limited space to fill. Unfortunately your application was not selected."

"Unfortunately, we will not be able to place you in this year’s show. Please know that with our limited number of spaces, the selection process is an extremely difficult one – and we have to say no to many talented females like yourself." 

"Unfortuntately, it does not blend in with the style of what we have going on at the shop. I am sorry to not have a better answer for you."

What I have found therapeutic... is to research the other artists they let in to the show... and when I say "research," I mean cyber-stalk. Then, I go to the show and look at my competitors as a way of letting go of the self doubt. It is my way of picking myself back up and facing my fears. I try not to compare myself... I just realize each show is looking for a variety of different artists.

"Comparison is the thief of joy." Theodore Roosevelt

ACCEPTANCE is much easier. You scan your letter (or e-mail) and there is that happy word... "CONGRATULATIONS!" You did it! You exhale. You may even do a little happy dance... Wasn't that worth it? 

I am getting better about accepting rejection and criticism. I am still learning. I am growing as an artist. And, I am realizing that every show is not meant for me. I am more selective. My time is more important. And, I refuse to give up on me! Making jewelry brings me JOY and I love sharing my passion with others.